When disasters take over our lives unexpectedly: A therapist’s reflection

Disasters, Community, and Mental Health: The Weight of Tragedy in Our Lives

The world feels like it's constantly in motion, with crises often unfolding in unexpected ways. As a Korean immigrant, I've been deeply impacted by the turmoil in South Korea, where political unrest continues to reverberate across the nation. More recently, a tragic plane crash in Muan, just 30 miles from the city I was born and raised in, claimed 179 lives—adding another layer of heartbreak to a year already marked by devastating news.

Across the world, another disaster has struck closer to home. Southern California is currently facing one of its most destructive wildfire seasons. Entire neighborhoods in places like Los Angeles have been ravaged by the fires, leaving residents without homes, businesses, or any of the familiar comforts they once had. As a therapist, I've been hearing from clients and colleagues alike, many of whom have lost everything. I’ve seen firsthand the immense grief and guilt that follows such loss, and the complex emotional landscape people have struck me are navigating in the wake of these events.

The intersection of natural disasters, community trauma, and mental health creates a unique set of challenges for individuals and society at large. Let's take a closer look at how these elements intertwine, especially in times of crisis, and the often-overlooked mental health implications that accompany them.

The Psychological Impact of Disasters

Disasters—whether natural, political, or otherwise—leave deep emotional scars. As someone who provides therapy, I witness the emotional fallout up close. For many, grief is not just about the loss of life or property but also the loss of identity. People in the fire-affected areas are mourning not only their homes but also the life they once knew. The familiar landmarks, routines, and connections that made up their sense of security and community are gone in an instant.

This type of trauma can lead to a range of emotional responses, from overwhelming sadness to guilt, and in some cases, survivors may feel responsible for the devastation, especially if they were fortunate enough to escape unharmed. The weight of survivor’s guilt can be profound, as people grapple with the reality that their lives are intact while others were not so lucky.

The Role of Social Media in Mental Health

In the digital age, the role of social media cannot be overstated, especially during times of crisis. While it can be a powerful tool for spreading awareness, connecting people, and providing a sense of solidarity, it also exacerbates the psychological toll disasters take on individuals and communities. In the aftermath of events like the California wildfires, social media has become a double-edged sword.

On one hand, it provides a platform for people to share resources, offer support, and even find hope. But on the other hand, it can also breed negativity, division, and shame. For example, many people living in affluent areas like Pacific Palisades or Altadena have been vilified for their wealth and access to resources. Social media posts often highlight the disparity between wealthy and working-class communities, and this comparison can create a toxic environment where guilt, resentment, and judgment run rampant.

This vilification is a troubling response. While wealthier individuals certainly have more access to recovery resources, it is important to remember that no one is immune from the emotional toll of disaster. The impact on mental health is not determined by one’s bank balance, and pointing fingers at certain communities only deepens the collective sense of division during an already traumatic time.

Community Support and Healing

It is during times of crisis that community support is most crucial. Disasters like wildfires, plane crashes, and political unrest are felt by everyone, regardless of social or economic status. But the way we come together in these moments—how we support one another, share resources, and offer emotional support—can make all the difference.

Communities that rally around one another in times of crisis can help mitigate the emotional burden of the disaster. This is especially true when mental health services are readily available and accessible. As a therapist, I believe that healing can be a communal effort. It’s not just about individual therapy or support; it’s about creating spaces where people can come together, share their grief, and heal together.

One of the key ways we can foster this sense of collective healing is by reducing judgment and vilification. Instead of casting blame on one another, we need to emphasize compassion, understanding, and collective resilience. Yes, there are disparities in resources, but focusing on what we can do together—whether it’s offering a listening ear, donating supplies, or simply being present—can help ease the heavy burden that each of us carries.

Moving Forward with Empathy

As we continue to face disaster after disaster—whether it’s in the form of natural calamities, political instability, or social upheaval—it’s vital that we approach these challenges with empathy. Empathy for the people who are suffering, and empathy for ourselves. Understanding that trauma is an experience that affects us all, regardless of background, and that mental health needs are universal, can help us build stronger, more resilient communities in the aftermath.

Mental health is a communal issue. It requires collective effort, compassion, and understanding. Whether it's through personal therapy or community-driven initiatives, we all play a role in supporting one another. And perhaps, in these trying times, the most important thing we can do is remember that we are all connected by our shared humanity and that together, we can heal.

As we continue to navigate a world full of unexpected tragedies, let us prioritize community, empathy, and mental health. The road to recovery may be long, but with each step, we can rebuild, reimagine, and heal—not just as individuals, but as a collective force of humanity.

If you or your loved ones are affected/displaced by the LA wildfires, please reach out for help. I’m also offering pro bono services for 3 clients for 6 weeks - whether individuals, couples or families. I’m here to support the LA communities I once benefited from.

With much love,

Dr. Wonbin